Here is a scene from the movie Across the universe which makes me ponder every time I think about it…
At the dinner table –
Max’s Father: Goddammit, Max! Get serious, for once! What are you going to DO with your life?
Max: Why is it always what will I do? “What will he do”, “What will he do,” “Oh, my god what will he do”, Do, do, do, do, do. Why isn’t the issue here who I am?
Uncle Teddy: Because, Maxwell, what you do defines who you are.
Max: No, Uncle Teddy. Who you are defines what you do. Right Jude?
Jude: [awkward] … Well, surely it’s not what you do, but the, uh… the way that you do it.
I wonder what is it?
What you do defines who you are or
Who you are defines what you do or
It’s not what you do, but the way that you do it